I’ve been routinely confronted by this experience of late…
I say: ”You seem angry.”
In response: ”I’m not angry, I didn’t raise my voice.”
Alternatively: ”I didn’t swear.” ”I didn’t go crazy.” ”I wasn’t rude.”
The premise is that anger is a behavior, not a feeling. Therefore, it would follow that as long as I don’t believe that I am behaving angrily, I have no resentment, frustrations, or irritations.
Oh, dear. If it were only that easy…