I’ve been routinely confronted by this experience of late…

I say:  ”You seem angry.”

In response:  ”I’m not angry, I didn’t raise my voice.”

Alternatively:  ”I didn’t swear.”  ”I didn’t go crazy.”  ”I wasn’t rude.”

The premise is that anger is a behavior, not a feeling. Therefore, it would follow that as long as I don’t believe that I am behaving angrily, I have no resentment, frustrations, or irritations.

Oh, dear.  If it were only that easy…